How to Calm a Sexually Excited Dog

Discourage them with loud noise.

Make sure your dog knows humping and mounting are bad behaviors. Discourage your dog in the same way you would with other bad behaviors. Use a loud clap or give a simple, stern, “No!”—whatever your dog has learned to associate with unacceptable behavior. For this method to work well, you should have already established trust and dominance through dog training. This issue can be super frustrating. Still, you should never hit or get aggressive to discourage humping or mounting in your dog. In some cases, humping and mounting can be about dominance. In this case, gently pushing your dog off of you and turning away from them is a good option.

Refocus their attention with toys or a game.

Humping and mounting are often instinctual—so interrupt their behavior. Typically, your dog will be happy to move on to a new distraction. In this case, the more positive and engaging the activity, the better. When you see your dog is about to hump, take them outside for a game. Or, pull out that toy that your dog can’t resist. Try fetch, chasing, tug-of-war, or a nice walk. If you offer your dog a toy, go for an interactive, stimulating choice. Treat dispensing toys, ball launchers, or puzzle toys are perfect. This is a great way to give your dog another outlet for their extra energy.

Ask them to perform a command.

Divert your pup’s focus to a task that requires immediate attention. To quickly redirect your dog and interrupt their instinct to hump, ask them to sit, stay, lie down, or roll over. Not only will this disrupt their behavior in the moment, but over time, it will train them not to follow their instincts to hump and mount. When they perform their command well, follow up with a treat or reward.

Ignore them or stay silent.

Withhold your attention so you don't positively reinforce the behavior. Sometimes, dogs may register any interaction with you to be a positive outcome to their behavior. So to discourage them, don't engage. If you see your dog begin humping, try to leave the room silently. If you can, avoid eye contact with your dog and don't pet them on your way out. Subtly send the message that this behavior doesn’t earn your attention, and over time, your dog could learn to stop. Plus, if your dog follows you from the room, you’ll have interrupted their behavior in the moment.

Give your dog a time out.

Leave your dog alone and unstimulated to discourage their behavior. When your dog starts humping or mounting, deliver a short command that you'll associate with time outs, like, “Done,” “Enough,” or “Alone Time.” Then, gently bring them to a space without toys or distractions to be by themself. Leave your dog alone for no more than 1-2 minutes. Make sure when you release your dog, they’re not engaging in bad behavior, like whining. This may positively reinforce the behavior. Be consistent when you do time-outs. Spot the behavior, deliver the command, leave the dog without distractions, and release them after just a few minutes. This will interrupt their behavior in the moment, and over time, it will teach your dog that you don’t approve of humping or mounting. It also gives your dog a chance to calm down on their own.

Treat them when they stop humping.

When you reward your dog, you teach them that you like their behavior. Give them a treat when they're calm and relaxed to say, “This is great behavior!” Over time, this will teach your pup that relaxed behavior pleases you—and that’s something your dog wants as much as you do! If your dog is lying down, breathing evenly or deeply, and has a relaxed expression—offer them a quick treat.

Keep them engaged in daily exercise.

Burning energy lowers stress and sexual urges in dogs. All in all, the more exercise your dog gets, the less irritability, tension, and yes, humping you’ll see in your dog’s behavior. Take them out for a nice, long daily walk. Incorporate tons of games in their daily schedule and if you can, try to make sure your activities aren’t just physically stimulating, but mentally stimulating too. Choose physically draining exercises, like fetch, swimming, runs, and wrestling. Engage them in mentally taxing exercise, too. Hide and seek, learning new tricks, and searching for treats will be extra engaging to them. It's hard to expect your dog to calm down if they have too much pent-up energy. Patricia McConnell, Animal Behaviorist and Bestselling Author When a dog grows overly excited, their behavior is often misconstrued as stubbornness or spite. In truth, strong instincts—from scents triggering frenzy to physical needs—drive much conduct. Understanding their perspective allows an empathetic response. Try redirecting focus positively or meeting needs for activity and stimulation. With care aligned to compassion, peaceful coexistence follows.

Enroll them in boot camp.

Professionals offer quick and efficient help with your dog's behavior. Enroll your dog in a training camp or doggie boot camp. Search for training camps in your area or reach out to other dog owners for a recommendation. When you sign your dog up, remember to ask the instructor for specialized advice, too.

Speak to your vet about the issue.

Humping and mounting could be caused by an underlying issue. Hormone imbalances, for instance, can increase this behavior. If your dog doesn't respond to training and reward techniques, get them checked by a vet. This way, you can get to the bottom of what's causing the behavior. Plus, if there's a serious issue, you'll know sooner rather than later. Humping can be a sexual behavior or play behavior, and both of these causes are totally normal. Humping can be common when dogs are stressed, tense, excited, or overwhelmed. If they face anxiety, humping could become a compulsive, daily habit. Humping can also be a way to assert dominance. This could be a show of power and status over other dogs or people. Finally, humping can also be caused by sickness. UTIs or skin allergies, for example, can bring about humping behaviors.

Separate your dog from people they could hurt.

Humping and mounting can be dangerous to kids and elderly people. While you’re getting the issue under control, take steps to avoid unsafe situations involving guests. It’s tough enough to train these urges out of your dog, so you don’t want to have to deal with the stress of an injured friend or family member on top of that. Keep your dog in a separate room or floor with food, water, and engaging toys. If the weather is nice, let them play outside until your guest leaves.

Spay or neuter your dog.

Spaying and neutering can help reduce dogs' sexual drive and urges. Though there's no certain age when dogs can safely be neutered or spayed (because each breed, gender, and specific dog is different), know that taking action too early could negatively effect your dog's health.If you’ve tried other methods with no luck, talk through the decision and its health implications with your vet. Spaying isn’t a good option if you’re interested in breeding your dog down the line. Remember, spaying and neutering won’t always help with this behavior. If humping and mounting have become a habit due to positive reinforcement, for instance, this may not change anything.

Separate female and male dogs.

Your dog's humping may be a reaction to a female in heat. When a female dog is in heat, she releases hormones that tell other dogs she's ready to breed. This can really affect male dogs, causing an uptick in sexual behaviors and even aggression. If this is your situation, separate your dogs while your female is in heat. Find a loving, temporary home for one of your dogs. Ask a friend, family member, or a professional dog sitter for help. A female dog is usually in heat for 2-4 weeks, so plan accordingly.

Clean your home if your dog is in heat.

Deep clean your dog's favorite spots to limit her hormones' odor. Your female dog’s scent will be all over the house, especially in her kennel, on her toys, and on her favorite blankets. So if you choose to keep your male and female dogs in the same home while she's in heat, limit the effect her smell will have on him by removing her scent from your home as often as possible.

Give your female dog chlorophyll tablets.

Chlorophyll could help mask her hormone's odor when if she's in heat. This in turn will reduce your male dog's sexual excitement. Find liquid chlorophyll or chlorophyll tablets at drug stores. Make sure to ask your vet for the dosage they think is best. Know that in addition to limiting her hormone's effects, she may be getting tons of other benefits: like healthier gums and even better breath.