Accept that it is over for good. Your ex broke up with you because they couldn't deal with the pressures of an inter-religious relationship/marriage.
Realize that they simply did not have the faith and courage to stand up for themselves and their beliefs for love, and simply succumbed to the societal and family limitations of what defines a marriage. A person possessing this type of character is simply not worth your time and emotions, because they are unreliable. You deserve to be given strength and support from a life partner.
Erase all texts, e-mails, pictures, phone numbers of this person. Remove all pictures put up on your social networking page -( pictures of the two of you, and such.) remove them and their friends from all your social networking sites. If this is done at the very early stage of a breakup, it will help you deal with the stress better. The last thing you need is to weep over these details, as you try to heal yourself.
Work out your steps as you move on, it can be hard because you had so perfectly carved out a future with this person. But, they are not in it now and you will have to come to terms with it. Re-plan your future slowly, do not take harsh decisions no matter how heartbroken you are.
Do not self-destruct. Don't cover up your pain with drinking, drugs, overeating, or by getting into another relationship right away. Avoid chain-smoking, inflicting self-injury, and other things that cause you to lose yourself even further. This is not going to help you, because you are acting on emotions right now.
Give yourself time to grieve the end of the relationship. Breakups are hard, and it's normal to go through the stages of grieving. Let yourself feel and process all of the emotions that come along with a breakup. If you're really heartbroken for more than a few weeks, set limits on your grieving time. For instance, give yourself 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening to cry. The rest of the time, focus on getting on with your life. Writing down your thoughts and feelings is one proven way to help you deal with it. At this point, you need to understand that suppressing your emotions will not be the best way to handle this. You need to let it out, communicate about it. You probably don't like the idea of writing, but give it a try, it will be hard to deal with the memories that rush into you when you are dealing with it, but it will help you in the long run.
See a counselor or a therapist. Everybody needs help, and sometimes we underestimate the power of trained professionals. You'll be surprised at how much you can connect yourself with the help of a therapist, and a therapist can sympathize or empathize in this situation.
Travel, nothing like a good vacation to help you take your mind off things. Go to places that are out of your comfort zone, experience something new and document it. As you’re trying to deal with the breakup, don’t go somewhere that you and your lover loved to go, as this can break your heart again.
Most breakups are healed with the help of friends and family. Make up for the lost time you spent on the failed relationship, by indulging in activities with close people.
Resist the temptation to look back and find out what your ex and their friends are up to. This will only make you miserable and spiteful. Remember: 'If I look back, I am lost'. Hence you must not look back. You did everything in your power to make the relationship work, and you can't blame yourself.
When things are broken, it makes you realize what you don't want and what you need. You have an experience that will make you wiser, stronger and a much better person. As painful as it can be, you will be grateful to it when you are in a much happier place.
Life this is, and move on we must. Just because something was broken, it doesn't mean you should stop believing in yourself and living your life. Just as there is a certainty that a new day begins after every sunrise, you must be hopeful. Similarly, realize that your ex deserves the same. And they will move on, they will end up marrying somebody of their own religion and begin a new life with them. What could have been your life with them, is now somebody else. All vacant positions will be taken up, by somebody better deserving for everybody. When this happens, you must let it go and believe - as annoying and painful as it sounds - everything happens for the best.
Ending an inter-religious relationship/marriage is horrible and is overly sensitive to deal with. Be proud of yourself because you tried, you gave it your best shot, but simply because the other person did not have the courage to try; it can't be your fault. There is more to life than a failed relationship, sometimes we need to let go to see what awaits us in the future.
Seek peace and gain confidence. You can try helping others in similar situations. Talking about it can help you express and help others based on your experience. Turn to religion and seek strength from God. This may enrich you by helping you see the positive side of events and how you have become a better person overall.
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