A woman took to Twitter and shared how her life completely changed after an arranged marriage. A Twitter user who goes by the name ‘Chullu Supremacy’ took to the micro blogging site and shared how an arranged marriage deeply impacted her life when it was a transformation from a “progressive family to an orthodox one.” She mentioned how one of the first things that happened was that her voice was curtailed. “In my new family, my opinions and desires were often dismissed or overlooked. It felt suffocating to be constantly silenced and disregarded, as if my thoughts and feelings didn’t matter,” she wrote.
Further, she mentioned that restrictions were placed on her friendships. She was no longer “allowed” to meet her male friends and this felt like a heavy burden to her. Making the situation worse, she was labeled as a “barren woman” because of her personal choice to delay giving birth.
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“The pressure extended beyond me to my family. They were constantly hounded and pressurised to keep me in check, to ensure I adhered to the orthodox norms set by my in-laws. It felt like my independence was being crushed from all directions,” she wrote.
It got much worse for her after she conceived as she was abandoned. “My in-laws and even my spouse washed their hands off me and the baby. There was no financial help for the baby, no emotional support, just a stark desertion,” she wrote. Soon, there was a shift from mental abuse to domestic abuse. Her relationship turned into a nightmare.
The woman mentioned how she is sharing her story to raise awareness and support many such women out there. Here is the Twitter thread:
Arranged Marriages A Thread As I sit here reflecting on my journey, I can't help but share how drastically my life changed after getting married. I went from a modern, progressive family to orthodox in-laws, and the impact on my freedom and happiness has been profound.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Another significant change was the restriction placed on my friendships. I was no longer allowed to meet or spend time with my male friends, even those I had known for years. The arbitrary boundaries placed on my relationships felt like a heavy burden.— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
As if the mental abuse wasn't enough, domestic abuse also became a part of my daily existence. The once loving relationship turned into a nightmare, filled with fear and violence. The walls witnessed my pain, while the world remained oblivious.— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Sharing my story is not just about catharsis; it's about raising awareness. There are countless women like me, trapped in oppressive environments, desperately seeking liberation. We need to challenge societal norms and fight for equality and justice.— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Sharing my story is not just about catharsis; it's about raising awareness. There are countless women like me, trapped in oppressive environments, desperately seeking liberation. We need to challenge societal norms and fight for equality and justice.— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Sadly, many women came forth and agreed how it is a normal practise. Also, many were able to relate with her. “Same thing happened with my sweet sister. She is no longer the girl she was before marriage,” mentioned a Twitter user. Another person wrote, “We don’t know each other but my mother went through the same situation years ago. Sending hugs, strength and solidarity, dear stranger. There are only better days ahead of you.”
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